How to Support Your Student in Fraternity & Sorority Life

Your student’s decision to join a fraternity or sorority is a major step in their personal and leadership development—and your support can make all the difference. While joining a chapter is ultimately their decision, families play a vital role in helping students make informed, confident, and safe choices.

Here are a few ways you can show support while helping your student make the most of their Fraternity and Sorority Life experience:

Start the Conversation

Encourage your student to explore their interests and values as they navigate the membership process. Ask open-ended questions like:

• What are you hoping to gain from joining an organization?

• What values or causes are important to you?

• What kind of support system are you looking for on campus?

These conversations help your student reflect on what matters most—and feel reassured that you’re in their corner.

Learn About the Organizations

Take time to learn about the chapters and councils on Widener’s campus. Ask your student which groups they’re considering, and take a look at their values, philanthropy work, and leadership opportunities. If your student is interested in a culturally-based or historically Black organization, learning about their traditions and intake process is especially helpful, as they may differ from the traditional recruitment experience.

Ask About Expectations (and Finances)

Encourage your student to ask thoughtful questions about time commitments, academic expectations, and financial obligations. Help them understand how dues work and how to budget. Many organizations offer payment plans, and some provide scholarships for active members.

Talk About Safety

Help your student feel empowered to speak up if something doesn’t feel right. Remind them that no organization should ever put them in harm’s way or make them feel uncomfortable. Widener University has a strict zero-tolerance policy on hazing, and our office is here to help if concerns arise.

Let Them Lead (Even If You’re a Member Too)

If you or another family member is affiliated with a fraternity or sorority, it can be tempting to guide your student toward the same experience. While legacy connections are meaningful, it’s important that your student finds an organization where they feel seen, supported, and excited to grow.

Keep the Door Open

College life is full of highs and challenges. Sometimes your student will need encouragement, other times they’ll need space. Either way, your support—from the background or the front row—helps them grow, lead, and navigate Fraternity and Sorority Life with confidence.